Greyscale Goods; a new on-line shopping experience for androgynous females

For gender-nonconforming individuals finding clothing you feel comfortable in can be a daunting, unpleasant, if not impossible task. Greyscale Goods founded by Sara Medd acting CEO, is a company that will personalize your clothing selections for you. First, you fill out a profile that indicates, body shape, size, measurements, and preferences and then, Greyscale Goods selects clothing based on your feedback for you. You will then receive a box of clothing in the mail which you get to try on. If you’re not happy with any of the choices, you simply send them back in a prepaid packaged envelope. You pay only for those items you decide to keep. The ideas is ingenious! I absolutely love the concept as a business strategy and that it targets a marginalized group of individuals addressing fashion and clothing style needs. It will revolutionize the way you’ve been shopping lately.

Talking About Gender

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A young boy in a dress and women shoes wedges himself between two posts at a camp designed to support and encourage gender-nonconforming males.

Where should families begin when it comes to talking about gender identity? Most children by the time they learn to talk will declare a gender identity that aligns most usually with their biological marker, boy or girl. At around two years of age most children become aware of the differences between the two gendered sexes. By age four, most children have a stable sense of their own gender identity, that sense of self that establishes them as who they are, boy or girl. During these early developmental years children also learn their gender roles, those activities that are unique to boys and those activities which are unique to girls.

If you are confused about how your child sees him/herself you can simply ask the question, do you feel you are boy or a girl? Even this simple question is no sure way to tell whether the child will grow to be gender nonconforming adult, but it can help shed clues to their unique developmental sense of self and help provide clues as to how he or she feels about their gender identity.

The reasons for gender dysphoria are believed to be both biological and social. There is no evidence that links gender identity to parenting or early childhood trauma. It is important to extend as much love, support, and unconditional acceptance of your child for who they are. “Research suggests that gender is something we are born with; it can’t be changed by any interventions.” It is also important that children’s interest and abilities be encouraged and strengthened no matter what gender they seem to orientate themselves with. Being socially accepted in the home can be a tremendous support structure for a young person who may have to deal with public social unacceptance. The proper guidance by the parents to help a child achieve their own unique fullest potential is priceless, rather than mold them in to gender conforming stereotypical and traditional gender roles which can create anxieties and depression.

Typically, gender identity will become clear in early childhood, sexual orientation occurs much later. Talking to your child about sex or sexuality openly instead of shying away from the topic is another good idea. Research has shown that children who are talked to about sexuality are the most likely to postpone sexual activity. Parents should be honest about their own values, explaining their beliefs and reason for them. “Many gender-nonconforming children grow-up to identify as gay, lesbian, or bisexual: all are at risk for bullying and mental health problems. Gender and sexuality concerns spur a large share of teen suicides attempts.”

A note worthy quote I refer to often was postulated by Lucy Holmes in her book “Wrestling with Destiny,” which has been, to date, one of the best psychoanalytic pieces of literature I have come across. Although this quote primarily deals with women, I can’t help but ponder the social implications for men with gender dsyphoria issues:

“The women I treated and treat consistently demonstrate that they have an internalized triangle of mother, father and self within their psyches, and I have hypothesized that this unconscious triangulation is set up when girls, on a fantasy level, use the introjection of early parental objects in much the same way that boys use the penis: to gain mastery and control over an essentially uncontrollable object, the pre-Oedipal mother, and later, the Oedipal father.”

Approaching your gender-nonconforming child from a nonjudgmental perspective is best as well as offering understanding, respect, and support. This establishes the home environment as a “safe house,” one where ideas can be openly explored, topics freely discussed, and one in which your child can draw informed decisions using their own logic and intellect. Be on the look out for signs of anxiety, insecurity, depression, and low self-esteem. Stand up for your child when your child is mistreated. Do not minimize the social pressure or bullying your child may be facing. Do not be indifferent or encourage slurs or jokes based on gender identity or sexual orientation. Among the organizations that support parents and families with gender-nonconforming children are: familyproject.sfsu.edu        genderspectrum.org          pflag.org.

The following is a link to various gender terms and their definitions. It’s noteworthy to look over and to orientate yourself with these terms and the various possible spectrum of gender identity constellations that can unfold for your child.

Gender Identity; Terms Defined

Gender Identity; Terms Defined

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The portrait of gender identities I had become familiar with while growing-up were these four basic terms; Homosexual, Lesbian, Transgender, and Heterosexual. Since the late 60s and early 70s gender identity has redefined itself. To get a glimpse of the “new” gender revolution that has taken place National Geographic required 21 terms to be defined when speaking about an individuals gender issues. Since the whole issue of gender identity can become very confusing, I thought posting the various defined terms for clarity might help in understanding a person’s gender constellation. They are as follows:

AGENDER: Describes a person who does not identify as having a gender identity that can be categorized as man or woman or who identifies as not having a gender identity.

ANDROGYNOUS: A combination of masculine and feminine traits or a nontraditional gender expression.

CISGENDER (pronounced sis-gender): A term to describe a person whose gender identity matches the biological sex they were assigned at birth. (It is sometimes abbreviated as “cis.”)

GENDER BINARY: The idea that gender is strictly an either-or option of male/man/masculine or female/woman/feminine based on sex assigned at birth, rather than a continuum or spectrum of gender identities and expressions. The gender binary is considered to be limiting and problematic for those who do not fit neatly into the either-or categories.

GENDER CONFORMING: A person whose gender expression is consistent with cultural norms expected for the gender. According to these norms, boys and men are or should be masculine, and girls and women are or should be feminine. Not all cisgender people are gender conforming, and not all transgender people are gender nonconforming. (For example, a transgender woman may have a very feminine gender expression.)

GENDER DYSPHORIA: The medical diagnosis for being transgender as defined by the American Psychiatric Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, fifth edition (DSM-V). The inclusion of gender dysphoria as a diagnosis in DSM-V is controversial in transgender communities because it implies that being transgender is a mental illness rather than a valid identity. But because a formal diagnosis is generally required in order to receive or provide treatment in the United States, it does enable access to medical care for some people who wouldn’t ordinarily be eligible to receive it.

GENDER EXPRESSION: A person’s outward gender presentation, usually comprising personal style, clothing, hair style, clothing, hair style, make-up, jewelry, vocal inflection, and body language. Gender expression is typically categorized as masculine, feminine, or androgynous. All people express a gender. Gender expression can be congruent with a person’s gender identity, or not.

GENDERFLUID: Someone whose gender identity or expression shifts between man/masculine and woman/feminine or falls somewhere along this spectrum.

GENDER IDENTITY: A person’s deep-seated, internal sense of who they are as a gendered being: the gender with which they identify themselves.

GENDER MARKER: The designation (male, female, or another) that appears on a person’s official records, such as birth certificate or driver’s license. The gender marker on a transgender person’s documents is their sex assigned at birth unless they legally change it, in parts of the world allowing that.

GENDER NONCONFORMING: A person whose gender expression is perceived as being inconsistent with cultural norms expected for that gender. Specifically, boys or men are not “masculine enough” or are feminine, while girls or women are not “feminine enough” or are masculine. Not all transgender people are gender nonconforming, and not all gender-nonconforming people identify as transgender. Cisgender people may also be gender nonconforming. Gender nonconformity is often inaccurately confused with sexual orientation. An example would be the “tomgirl” who grew up to become a FBI field agent or an “effeminate boy” who who grew up to become a Nurse. These are nontraditional gender roles that are not necessarily representative of sexual orientation.

GENDERQUEER: Someone whose gender identity is neither man nor woman, is between or beyond genders, or is some combination of genders.

INTERSEX: A category that describes a person with a disorder of sexual development (DSD), a reproductive, genetic, genital, or hormonal configuration that results in a body that often can’t be easily categorized as male or female. Intersex is frequently confused with transgender, but the two are completely distinct. A more familiar term, hermaphrodite, is considered outdated and offensive.

LGBTQ: An acronym used to refer to lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, and/or questioning individuals and communities, LGBTQ is not a synonym for “nonheterosexual,” since that incorrectly implies that transgender is a sexual orientation. Variants include LGBT and LGBQ.

NONBINARY: A spectrum of gender identities and expressions, often based on the rejection of the gender binary’s assumption that gender is strictly an either-or option of male/man/masculine or female/woman/feminine based on sex assigned at birth. Terms include “agender,” “bi-gender,” “gender-queer,” “gender fluid,” and “pangender.”

PRONOUNS: Affirming pronouns are the most respectful and accurate pronouns for all person as defined by that person. It’s best to ask which pronouns a person uses. In addition to the familiar “he,” “she,” and “they,” newly created no gendered pronouns include “zie” and “per.”

PUBERTY SUPPRESSION: A medical process that pauses the hormonal changes that activate puberty in young adolescents. The result is a purposeful delay of the development of secondary sexual characteristics (such as breast growth, testicular enlargement, facial hair, body fat redistribution, voice changes). Suppression allows more time to make decisions about hormonal interventions and can prevent the increased dysphoria that often accompanies puberty for transgender youth.

QUEER: An umbrella term for a range of people who are not heterosexual and/or cisgender. It has been historically used as a slur; some have reclaimed it as affirming, while others still consider it derogatory.

SEXUAL ORIENTATION: A person’s feelings of attraction to ward other people A person may be attracted to people of the same sex, of the opposite sex, of both sexes, or without reference to sex or gender. Some people do not experience sexual attraction and may identify as asexual. Sexual orientation is about attraction to other people (external), while gender identity is a deep-seated sense of self (internal).

TRANSGENDER: Sometimes abbreviated as “trans,” an adjective used to describe a person whose gender identity does not match the biological sex they were assigned at birth. It can refer to a range of identities including transgender boys and men, people who identify as boy or man but were assigned female at birth, and transgender girls and women, people who identify as a girl or woman but were assigned male at birth.

TRANSSEXUAL: This is an older term that has been used to refer to a transgender person who has had hormonal or surgical interventions to change their body to be more aligned with their gender identity than with the sex that they were assigned at birth. While still used as an identity label by some, “transgender” has generally become the term of choice.

Source: The Teaching Transgender Toolkit, by Eli R. Green and Luca Maurer
National Geographic, January 2017 Issue, Gender Revolution

 

Narcissistic Abuse and Dealing with Boundaryless Behavior (edited)

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A good read on the “exhausting mind screw” of the Narcissist which I had fallen victim to many times in the past. More than I’d care to talk about. So, I started reading books and recognizing how to use knowledge and wisdom over emotion to gain leverage and support with tactics to combat the unconscienceless behavior which diminishes good will and trust. Understanding the tactics employed by this type of psychopath is important if you are to recognize how they play you like a musical instrument. Techniques like “gaslight,” making one self-doubt and question what’s really happening. Other strategies like projecting on to you their responsibility, “You owe me!” and unsubstantiated claims like, “You’re just like me!” Narcissists are creatures of habit just like you and I. Listening and watching for the “repetition behaviors,” those words and phrases frequently used in conversation will help to analyze and understand their strategies and assist in formalizing your own personal strategy in combating them and changing outcomes.

“As a result, we don’t feel heard, which diminishes trust and goodwill…we are frustrated, don’t feel listened to or more importantly heard. Our concerns go unresolved. They mount. Our emotions are nearly completely shut down just as the narcissist is. We explode which gives them justification in their eyes to abuse us further saying “see! YOU really have a problem with anger!” (projecting their emotions onto us because WE CAN FEEL them). It’s an exhausting mind screw. No other way to put it. And why over complicate it by using some textbook term to describe it?! It’s a Mind Screw! It’s exhausting, burns us out and makes most of us never want to argue like this with another person again in our lives.”

At some point along the way we “allowed our rights to be violated by not standing up, (protecting ourselves) walking away (holding the narcissist accountable) and refusing to remain (respecting our own worth) in the company of someone who doesn’t respect us.”

Common to Narcissistic abuse is an “extreme power imbalance, punishment & reward system, Stockholm syndrome and brainwashing, as all victims of abuse we “allow” things to happen due to the abusive schema.”

As victims and caregivers “we’re used to putting ourselves last to please others and we constantly acquiesce. This is the “boundarylessness” of narcissistic abuse and what we call “forced codependence”. It’s the lowest point in the narcissistic “relationship”; having none of our own needs met, having the narcissist demand that theirs are or else they punish us with rage or silence,  having hatred, blame and shame projected upon us with no defense (no boundaries) and accepting all of it while feeling  hopelessly worthless, loveless, lonely and stuck in a cycle of learned helplessness.”

My question is this, “How do you stop the boundraylessness and unconscienceless behavior of a narcissist who is using technological means, like electro-magnetic frequency (radio-waves), to sicken his/her victims and punish them for a perceived narcissistic injury?” Contrary to popular belief, this is the “lowest point” in narcissistic abuse because he/she has systematically shut the victim down and prevented them to perform work, well at least only the work he has deemed suitable. To read further please click the link below.

Narcissistic Abuse and Dealing with Boundaryless Behavior

Pumpkin Spiced Loaf with Pumpkin Butter (edited)

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While shopping in my local farmer’s market the other day I purchased a 12.89 lb cheese pumpkin! Pumpkin is one of my all time favorite vegetables and since I have never made homemade pumpkin puree before, I decided to try. Boasted about by many personal home cooks who have assured me of the absolutely fantastic attributes to making fresh, I embarked on the tireless endeavor of cleaning the pumpkin, roasting the pumpkin, cooling the pumpkin, peeling and chopping the pumpkin, and then pureeing it in batches for my sterilized jars. A true labor of love and one that I have to agree is well worth the effort! The flavor is so much more sweeter than the store bought canned varieties which means you use less sugar, and the flavor so much more fresh and intense. Here are just two things I decided to make with my fresh puree!

PUMPKIN SPICED LOAF

Makes 8 generous servings

DRY INGREDIENTS:
2 cups oat flour
¾ teaspoon salt
1 heaping tablespoon baking powder
¾ teaspoon cinnamon
¼ teaspoon ground ginger
1/8 teaspoon nutmeg
Pinch of ground cloves

WET INGREDIENTS:
1 cup Lactaid Milk 2%
3 tablespoons ground flax seed
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 ½ cups unsweetened pumpkin puree
1/3 cup canola oil
¾ teaspoon lemon juice
½ cup brown sugar
¼ teaspoon fresh lemon zest

Preheat oven to 415F

Combine all the dry ingredients in a large bowl.

Combine all the wet ingredients in the bowl of a food processor and process. This activates the flax eggs.

Fold the wet ingredients in to the dry ingredients. Mix well.

Grease a loaf pan. Pour batter in to loaf pan. Sprinkle with pumpkin seeds, raw oats and/or sugar.

Bake at 415F for 20 minutes. Reduce oven temperature to 395F and bake an additional 25 minutes or until a toothpick inserted into the center of loaf comes out clean. Baking time may equal 40-50 minutes depending since oven temperatures can vary.

Cool loaf in pan for 30 minutes before removing. Serve with Pumpkin Butter. (recipe follows)

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PUMPKIN BUTTER

1 (15 oz) solid pack pumpkin
½ cup brown sugar
½ cup water
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 tablespoon grated lemon peel (see Cook’s Note)
1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
¼ teaspoon salt
¼ teaspoon ground nutmeg
¼ teaspoon ground ginger
Pinch of ground cloves, optional

In a large saucepan, combine all ingredients. Bring to a boil, stirring frequently. Reduce heat, and simmer for 15-20 minutes to thicken and to allow flavors to blend. When butter starts to thicken turn off heat.

Cool. Spoon in to clean and sterilized jars. I filled three 6 oz jars with butter my recipe yielded. Keeps for up to 3 weeks. Yields 2 cups.

COOK’S NOTE: I grated a scant amount of fresh lemon zest to add to the saucepan. My personal taste tells me that one full tablespoon of lemon zest would be entirely too strong for flavor. Use your own taste discretion.

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2 tablespoons; 42 calories; 0 fat; 0 cholesterol; 38mg sodium; 11 grams carbohydrate; 9 grams sugar; 1 gram fiber, 0 protein and a boat load of vitamin A and C

Human Aggression; Cooperation Versus Indifference (edited)

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Violence erupts in the streets during Donald Trump’s Inauguration, Washington, D.C.

So I don’t live in the nicest town in New Jersey. In fact, Trenton has seen its fair share of corruption and criminal activity and to top it all off, last night was one of the spookiest nights of the new year. The Northeast is experiencing a Nor’easter and it’s been rainy, windy, cold, and unpleasant for the last 48 hours. I guess I shouldn’t have been too surprised to have been awaken by a rapping on my back door at 3:00 am in the morning, except for the fact that no one in their right mind comes knocking at that hour. A gentle rapping signaling “Please let me in” increased in crescendo to a full blown pounding and rattling with intermittent bursts of shoving on our securely locked back door. Who in god’s name could it be at this hour? A gentleman dressed in black that’s who, who also declared to our neighbors in a narcissistic rage, “She said she LOVED me and now she won’t open the door for me!” and also declared “Mom I’m at the back door! Let me in! I’m at the wrong house!?” Despite this last declaration he still continued to shove the door open. Why is it when you are waiting for the police to arrive at your most desperate hour every moment seems like an eternity? By the time the police did arrive, which wasn’t too long afterward, the mysterious man in black had vanished and further searching yielded no results.

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With my interest in human aggression this night might be considered serendipitous, however, the completely frightening, helpless terror one feels when one is confronted on the side of the unexpected and unknown is indescribable. Human aggression has demonstrated that the way people behave is a reflection of what has happened to them, not a reflection of their innate drives. Peoples forced into a consignment they are not prepared to deal with can have catastrophic results. Individuals who were once generous, compassionate, and honest, once deprived of their traditional way of life, the only life they knew how to live, can turn indifferent and even hostile to others and to outsiders. Environmental changes can force individuals and people to scramble for themselves in order to survive.

Violence & Culture.jpgWhen whole groups are forced into a situation they can not handle, the response has been to split wide open, to neglect their children, to abandon their earlier habits of compassion and cooperation. And as a result they will soon be extinct. Indifference is not conducive to human survival. It’s very likely that this has happened before in our human history when groups were not able to handle their misfortunes together, perhaps they died separately and the group vanished. If that has happened, and there is no reason to suppose it has not, then those of us on earth at this moment are the descendants of people who had first of all a certain amount of good luck in the condition of their lives: not too much famine, not too much natural catastrophe, not too much sudden climate change, and at least so far not irremediably too stupid and blind a government. And we are also the descendants of those people who, given that certain amount of luck, helped each other through whatever did come to them.

There could be no claim made that humans beings are innately generous and helpful, any more than they are innately hostile and violent. There are within all of us potentialities to be helpful, just as there are within us potentialities to be violent. But the point is that cooperative drives have helped play a vastly more important role, during the five million or so years of evolution from ape to human being, than have our potentialities for violence. Let’s pray we’re all a little smarter than we look.

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A Theory In The Symbolic Unconscious

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In my attempt to unravel the mysteries that surround my existence and presence here in this reality we call planet Earth, I decided to post an interrogatory to my readers, “Have you ever dreamed of a person you were attracted to, but never met them during your waking life, or you were unaware as to their identity and unable to distinguish them with any particular certainty as to who their character was?” Dream analysis suggests these individuals represented in dreams are your symbolic “soul mates” or “gender opposites.” The two theories which discuss the idea of a “soul mate,” which is, of course, a person with whom one shares a deep empathy in terms of disposition point-of-view, or sensitivity; are Twinship and Anima. Although the encounter with this symbolic image in dreams is more of a representation of “successful apprenticeship” in an individual’s personal development and creative successes than of an actual meeting of a “soul mate” in and of itself, the concept is rather interesting to entertain since Lucy Holmes put forth that in all the patients she worked with, all possessed an internalized triangulation of “mother”, “father”, and “self” within her patients’ psyches. Both theories share a common root though, the turn to our creative ego function, specifically the gender opposite, to secure a sense of self-cohesion when confidence needs bolstering. It is a completely normal experience and one that drives the preservation of self identity. I had one of these dreams during my college years. Here are the philosophical differences.

Twinship (Freudian)

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Twinship or alter ego transference occurring in waking life. Kohut (1971) originally identified this self object function as a manifestation of mirroring. Twinship represents normal developmental striving. Kohut (1984) characterized it as a longing for an intimate experience in which a self object is perceived as a faithful replica of oneself, capable of matching one’s psychological states as if self and self object were one and the same. It is not a merger, in which the sense of an autonomous self is submerged, although in archaic forms it may manifest in this way. More typically, twinship self object needs spur people to turn to their self objects and experience them as a part of the self. It operates as a silent presence to keep one company when self-cohesion requires bolstering. Corresponding in some ways to the colloquial term “soul mate,” the twinship self object function refers to the experience of a companionate presence that feels and thinks just like oneself. It is akin to the feeling of special connection with someone who uncannily finishes one’s sentences, although this sense of connection goes far deeper to sustain self-cohesion when the self is experienced as being devitalized.

Anima and Animus (Jungian)

copy-and-pasteIn the psychology of Carl Jung, the masculine or feminine inner personality of their respective objects in the unconscious of the mind. It is the symbolic representation of archetypes in dreams and it is your opposite or counterpart. For example, in the unconscious of a man, this archetype finds expression as a feminine inner personality: anima; equivalently, in the unconscious of a woman it is expressed as a masculine inner personality: animus. The anima and animus can be identified as the totality of the unconscious feminine psychological qualities that a man possesses or the masculine ones possessed by a woman, respectively.

Because a male’s sensitivity is often lesser or repressed, the anima is one of the most significant autonomous complexes of all. It is said to manifest itself by appearing in dreams. It also influences a man’s interactions with women and his attitudes toward them and vice versa for women and the animus. Jung said that “the encounter with the shadow is the “apprentice-piece’ in the individual’s development….that the anima is the ‘masterpiece.’ Jung viewed the anima process as being one of the sources of creative ability. In the book “The Invisible Partners” it is said that the key to controlling one’s anima/animus is to recognize it when it manifests and exercise our ability to discern the anima/animus from reality.

 

Human Aggression and Donald Trump

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President elect Donald Trump has not even been inaugurated into office yet and its seems that America is still completely paralyzed by the fear of Trump’s “fundamental-lack-of-anything-remotely-resembling-fitness-for-office thing.” Twitter is still exploding with comments like “just a racist buffoon who treats every fucking thing like a dick-sizing contest” and “you want to know what Trump means for the rest of America? Check out the Book of Job.” Hollywood actress Meryl Strepp even took to the stage to voice her own outrage at the behavior of a man who is about to hold the highest caliber position in America.

Robert Ardrey, a playwright turned science writer commented on the nature of human aggression, “The human being in the most fundamental aspects of his soul and body is nature’s last if temporary word on the subject of the armed predator.” In addition, Dr. Howard E. Evans, professor of zoology at Colorado State University who concluded, “if man is basically aggressive then the continued mouthing of platitudes about brotherly love is clearly no solution.” It seems we prefer the courteous  smile and grace of our former leader than to be told out right in the most radical of terms what America needs to be strong again. We prefer a peacekeeper, a diplomatic negotiator, someone willing to dispense charity with a smile, tact, and a bit of decorum, but human aggression including violence, is a built-in human quality which “civilized man”, and I still have a problem with this concept, has just adapted to fit his own personal lifestyle whether it be passive aggressive and covert or overtly aggressive and radical.

“The blood-bespattered, slaughter-gutted archives of human history from the earliest Egyptian and Sumerian records to the most recent atrocities of the Second World War, accord with early universal cannibalism, with animal and human sacrificial practices or their substitutes in formalized religions, and with the world-wide scalping, heading-hunting, body-mutilating and necrophilia practices of mankind in proclaiming the common bloodlust differentiators, this predacious habit, this mark of Cain that separates man dietetically from his anthropoidal relatives and allies him rather with the deadliest of Carnivora.”

There in lies the truth on Donald Trump’s nature, he possess ancestral DNA, his mark of Cain if you will, a man who is separate and dietetically different from his other anthropoid relatives and rallies with the deadliest of Carnivora; The Wall Street Tycoon, The Banker, and The Politician. These “Mad Hatters” of empires. It just seems that America isn’t ready to do business with a very outspoken particularly radical individual. Oh, and by the way, if you haven’t caught on to his style by now, a lot of the stuff he says, can be dismissed. He seems to be just blowing of steam. Time will tell and this presidency may very well forever define his character, but it doesn’t have to define our nation. He just may make America stronger again.

Word Of The Day And A Brief Survey

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Epigamic

The prefix of the word ‘epi’ means ‘on’ or ‘upon’. The suffix of the word ‘gamic’ means ‘to require fertilization in reproduction; sexual.’

The term Epigamic in evolutionary theory means utilizing or achieving those traits which are believed to be indicators for attraction of the opposite sex for the purpose of mating. In evolutionary theory it is seen typically in the brilliant colored plumage of the male bird. This display of color is an attracting mechanism, an indicator of established dominance. There are other features as well, like song, otherwise known as mating call, and even still more animal vocalizations and behaviors. We  see elaborate displays in nest building prowess that are utilized to attract the female bird, but on a human level:

Males compete with other males on their ability to attract a large following of women and, who, may also use their attributes such as body size, clothing, car, and intelligence.

Females compete with other women on their ability to attract a male based on their attributes, body size, clothing, car, and intelligence.

“Theories of intra-male competition and mate selection by females consistently portray females as non-competitive and ignore the possibility that females too might compete for mates.”

With human beings there is a much longer required behavioral pattern when it comes to our procreating. We require nine months of gestation and at least 25 years of ‘secure’ service from our mate’s time, but clearly there are initial attractors that attract us to our mate(s) from the beginning. Sexual magnetism can clearly have a strong influence on successful procreative outcomes. Since Epigamic therefore means “sexual prowess”;  What traits, as a human being, do you believe to be successful attracting mechanisms, those traits that will be viewed as indicators for established dominance? And what does sexual attraction mean to you? Is it strictly sexual prowess in the act of sexual reproduction or does it mean something more? If so, can you please elaborate any opinions you may have?

Additionally, if someone is threatening your “terroritory” how do you go about securing its “parameters”?  In other words, If your spouse is cheating, what approach do you recommend? Do you feel threatened if he is “looking” at your next door neighbor wearing a bathing suit? Do you rally your other neighbors to incite a campaign of terror on the potential victim? Are these behaviors seen as acceptable? Is there any behaviors that seem completely unacceptable when it comes to the potential loss of a secure mate?

In light of the Women’s Suffrage Movement of the early twentieth century and the Civil Rights Movement of the 1960s, their established a movement from the less sanctioned living conditions for women of both colors.  Women of today have achieved the right to vote, the right to birth control, the right to hold public office, and the right to wear bikini thong wear at the beach! Whether women actually want to wear this type of clothing at the beach is a completely different issue. At least they have the right to do so if they so choose. Women now get to exercise more of  her influence by wielding her dominance, it’s definitely a cultural phenomenon we are seeing more of in America today. When you take a look at  Mate Guardianship versus America’s Freedom of  Rights, you see the contrast; one is extremely oppressive, while the other is passively aggressive in tone, but still creates social issues and conflicts within its philosophy.

So, any input anyone has regarding this subject will be greatly appreciated. The purpose is to open a discussion regarding the social implications, perceptions of ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ action, as well as a acquiring different insights and perspectives on this particular issue. So, please comment!  A link to consider Female Aggression and Evolutionary Theory

 

Female Aggression; An Evolutionary Theory

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“It is argued that because females have a lower fitness variance and it is more likely that a female will produce at least one offspring that they have less to gain from physical competition among each other and as a result do not engage in competition for mates (Campbell, 1995). However Anne Campbell has made several arguments not only for the existence of female competition but for an evolutionary theory of female competition as well (Campbell 1995; Campbell, Muncer & Odber, 1997; Campbell, Muncer & Bibel, 2001). Campbell argues that the females compete with each other for access to high quality male mates using both physical and indirect aggression. Indirect aggression is characterized by ostracism, verbal harassment and rumor spreading (Burnette & Newman, 2005). When high quality male mates are scarce females who are able to repel other female competitors, by physical means or by social ostracism, have a better chance of reproducing with the higher quality males and producing healthier and more successful offspring.”

I guess some women just need a leash. To read more regarding this theory, click the link below.

Female Aggression; Evolutionary Theory