A good read on the “exhausting mind screw” of the Narcissist which I had fallen victim to many times in the past. More than I’d care to talk about. So, I started reading books and recognizing how to use knowledge and wisdom over emotion to gain leverage and support with tactics to combat the unconscienceless behavior which diminishes good will and trust. Understanding the tactics employed by this type of psychopath is important if you are to recognize how they play you like a musical instrument. Techniques like “gaslight,” making one self-doubt and question what’s really happening. Other strategies like projecting on to you their responsibility, “You owe me!” and unsubstantiated claims like, “You’re just like me!” Narcissists are creatures of habit just like you and I. Listening and watching for the “repetition behaviors,” those words and phrases frequently used in conversation will help to analyze and understand their strategies and assist in formalizing your own personal strategy in combating them and changing outcomes.
“As a result, we don’t feel heard, which diminishes trust and goodwill…we are frustrated, don’t feel listened to or more importantly heard. Our concerns go unresolved. They mount. Our emotions are nearly completely shut down just as the narcissist is. We explode which gives them justification in their eyes to abuse us further saying “see! YOU really have a problem with anger!” (projecting their emotions onto us because WE CAN FEEL them). It’s an exhausting mind screw. No other way to put it. And why over complicate it by using some textbook term to describe it?! It’s a Mind Screw! It’s exhausting, burns us out and makes most of us never want to argue like this with another person again in our lives.”
At some point along the way we “allowed our rights to be violated by not standing up, (protecting ourselves) walking away (holding the narcissist accountable) and refusing to remain (respecting our own worth) in the company of someone who doesn’t respect us.”
Common to Narcissistic abuse is an “extreme power imbalance, punishment & reward system, Stockholm syndrome and brainwashing, as all victims of abuse we “allow” things to happen due to the abusive schema.”
As victims and caregivers “we’re used to putting ourselves last to please others and we constantly acquiesce. This is the “boundarylessness” of narcissistic abuse and what we call “forced codependence”. It’s the lowest point in the narcissistic “relationship”; having none of our own needs met, having the narcissist demand that theirs are or else they punish us with rage or silence, having hatred, blame and shame projected upon us with no defense (no boundaries) and accepting all of it while feeling hopelessly worthless, loveless, lonely and stuck in a cycle of learned helplessness.”
My question is this, “How do you stop the boundraylessness and unconscienceless behavior of a narcissist who is using technological means, like electro-magnetic frequency (radio-waves), to sicken his/her victims and punish them for a perceived narcissistic injury?” Contrary to popular belief, this is the “lowest point” in narcissistic abuse because he/she has systematically shut the victim down and prevented them to perform work, well at least only the work he has deemed suitable. To read further please click the link below.